What exactly is a sex-positive world? Wikipedia, the top listing when “sex-positive” is Googled, has this sentence as the opener: “The sex-positive movement is an ideology which promotes and embraces open sexuality with few limits.”
Huh?
As you read on, the article does a better job at accurately describing “sex positive,” though I definitely wondered if someone at Fox News wrote the first sentence. “An ideology that promotes open sexuality with few limits.” ??? That is so… ridiculous (and polarizing, but I’ll just focus on the ridiculous).
Like the words suggest, a sex-positive world is one that has a positive view of sex. A world that has a positive view of sex supports individuals in the grand and mandatory research project of discovering what is sexually fulfilling. It’s grand because there are a zillion possible expressions. It’s mandatory because every human has sex organs that they need to figure out.
For some, “sexual fulfillment” will mean “open sexuality with few limits.” However, for most folks, it will mean living in a world where everyone…
- can receive a straight-up education about the thrills and pitfalls of physical pleasure.
- deeply understands it is their birthright to experience true physical pleasure.
- is lovingly encouraged to connect with physical pleasure in a way that is steeped in “response-ability” to self and others.
- respects all the many expressions that will arise (as long as they don’t harm anyone or anything).
Limits are an absolute necessity of sexual pleasure and are self-defined. One will never arrive at authentic sexual pleasure without them.
